Monday, July 25, 2011

Rome wasn’t built in a day…


And, I still can’t quite believe all that was built centuries and centuries ago in the history-rich European countries.  Recently, I traveled to Italy with my family and was in awe of the structures that were built by hand and with make-shift equipment over 2,000 years ago.  The physical effort and sheer architectural genius that went into places like the Forum, Coliseum and Piazza de Poppolo  caused me to pause and wonder…what legacies are we going to leave for visitors hundreds of years from now, and actually even decades from now?  Seems like we are going to leave a great deal of debt and pollution, and natural resources that have been depleted. 

Now, recent and current generations can certainly take credit for the technology boom, skyscrapers and space travel, but are these going to be legacies that we will be proud of?  Will they withstand the test of time like the ancient structures have?  I wonder if the motivation to build and create such greatness was driven by the “need” of the people – need for protection against their enemies, need to elevate their position in society and so on.  Conversely, it feels like we here in America are more driven by what we “want” – wanting to be bigger and better than our neighbors, wanting everything to be fast and easy and so on.  And, that might lessen our creativity, ingenuity, work ethic and overall commitment to one another, our environment, society and future generations.

Creating a legacy feels like an insurmountable task to me based on my own talents, but maybe it’s a bit simpler than that.  Just maybe I can do something that will positively affect my family, friends and co-workers now and into the future.  Whether it’s a tradition – new or old – a kind action or a profound thought!  While Rome wasn’t built in a day, I am going to try and work on my mini-legacies starting today.

Thursday, July 21, 2011

On being a bridesmaid...


Similar to many of my peers, I’m going through the “bridesmaid phase” of my life. For those who aren’t familiar this phase, it is when you find yourself walking down the aisle at friends’ weddings more than once a year. Because I am in this phase, anything related to bridesmaids (dresses, bachelorette parties, showers, etc.) automatically catches my attention. I recently came across an article on cnn.com about the high cost of being a bridesmaid. The article indicated that it costs about $1,695 to be a bridesmaid. $1,695 for just one wedding!

Like many other bridesmaids, I didn’t realize how much I had invested to be a bridesmaid. The expenses are spread out over a few months, and I never took the time to reflect on the cost. I am currently in the process of picking out my matching dress, planning out what I am going to pack for a destination bachelorette party, and doing all the things that come along with the honor of being asked to stand up next to a best friend on her important day. The only difference is that this time I’m paying attention to the costs – and while I wouldn’t change how excited I am to be a bridesmaid for my friend – it’s all a bit shocking!

In the end, even though paying for a dress that, no matter what it looks like you will never “shorten and wear again” can be stressful, it is still worth it to be there for your friend…as long as you can afford it.